How to Negotiate in a Collaborative Law Case

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For people starting out in Collaborative cases, their focus is usually on something like gathering information, wondering what to expect or worrying about whether their own needs can be met.  Something that isn’t considered too often is now to prepare to negotiate in a Collaborative divorce case context.  Here are some suggestions to help address that oversight.1.  Learn from the …

Why You Shouldn’t Negotiate with Your Spouse

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As a Collaborative case progresses, one or both of the parties often want to “save time” or “save money” by negotiating directly with their spouse, outside of the joint Collaborative meetings.  That’s usually a bad idea from my experience.  Why? Here are some common problems that arise when the parties go off on their own and directly negotiate some aspects …

Why You Might Want Help in Negotiations

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“Do it yourself” is a time-honored tradition for many things. Home improvements or repairs come to mind — a good idea for a handyman, but not such a good idea for others, like me, without the talent and experience to know what to do or how to do it for projects above the basic level. On the other hand, there …

Why We Use Interest-Based Bargaining

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In Collaborative Law cases, we work hard to get the parties to establish and then focus on their goals, needs and interests. Negotiating with that perspective is called interest-based bargaining. One of the great advantages of Collaborative Law is the emphasis on goals, needs and interests. Instead of taking at arbitrary approach, such as aiming for half of everything, or …

10 Tips for Better Collaborative Communication

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At all stages of a Collaborative Law case, communication skills are important. How you say something is often just as important as what you say, regardless of whether you are talking with your attorney, your spouse or one of the neutral experts involved. At the outset of a Collaborative case, you can expect your attorney, the other attorney and any …

Negotiating Effectively: Why You Shouldn’t Hurry

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One of the most common reasons some people sign up for a Collaborative divorce (or other family law matter), is that they expect it to be a fast process. Relatively speaking, that’s an accurate expectation. Compared to how long a traditional divorce takes, a Collaborative divorce is normally much faster, although it isn’t always. Most can be finished in three …

Negotiating Effectively: Why You Shouldn’t Hurry

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One of the most common reasons some people sign up for a Collaborative divorce (or other family law matter), is that they expect it to be a fast process. Relatively speaking, that’s an accurate expectation. Compared to how long a traditional divorce takes, a Collaborative divorce is normally much faster, although it isn’t always. Most can be finished in three …

Another View of How to End an Impasse

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One of the consistently best family law blogs is the Maryland Divorce Legal Crier by James J. Gross. A few days ago, he had a post about the same subject I recently discussed. Here’s his take on impasse. “What happens when an irresistible force meets an immovable object? A lawyer makes a settlement proposal for a divorce client. The other …

5 Tips for Getting out of an Impasse

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Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, it seems like you reach a dead end with your spouse on an issue in a Collaborative Law case. It happened while you were together, and it shouldn’t be surprising that it still happens after you split up. You’ve thought about possible approaches and made plenty of suggestions, but no agreement seems forthcoming. …

How to Negotiate Effectively

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A recent post on Human Law Mediation had five great tips for more effective negotiating in mediation. While some of these tips could also improve your efforts in the Collaborative Law arena, the list highlights some of the differences in approach between Collaborative Law and mediation. 1. Plan and prepare in the right way. In the Collaborative context, this would …