Happy New Year?

It’s a New Year! Are You Ready?

This year, “Divorce Day” was January 3, 2022, the first Monday in January. It’s called that –unofficially– because it is the start of divorce season. Many people who are thinking about getting a divorce wait until after the December holidays to actually file. They don’t want to disrupt the holidays, and that’s not a bad idea.

There are many reasons for getting a divorce:

• Lack of communication between the spouses,

• No closeness or affection,

• Financial issues,

• Dishonesty,

• Being unfaithful,

• Violence,

• Drifting apart, and

• Many others.

Of course, there are different levels of problems. Some couples can live with the issues. That’s fine for them. Some may need some help to save the marriage.

∙ Family counseling may be beneficial, if both parties will go,

∙ Individual counseling may help a spouse learn how to deal with the situation,

∙ Meeting with your religious advisor may be helpful and give you good perspective,

∙ Visiting with a financial advisor might be useful as well, or

∙ Maybe consulting with an attorney would be helpful, although going to see one who always pushes litigation may be counterproductive. There are attorneys who can help you be creative in seeking solutions.

For other people, even a single event or “small” problem is enough to push them over the edge so that they want a divorce.

If that describes you, it’s time for you to decide how to handle the divorce. If you have trouble deciding, you should see a counselor, wise friends or a divorce attorney to discuss your options.

If you are in a bad situation, it's time to take care of yourself and family. Don't try to do it all by yourself. Good luck!