We have represented a variety of clients over the years:
business executives retired people
business owners sales people
counselors stay-at-home dads
CPAs stay-at-home moms
IT professionals among others.
Here are some common situations that we have dealt with a number of times in Collaborative Divorces.
1. Career Change, Relocation, Sharing Parenting Time: Couple of professionals who worked for the same company for several years. They have two young children. We had to resolve issues about a career change for one party, which meant a temporary reduction in income, a dispute over where the parties (and children) could live and how to share time with the kids. Utilizing the neutral child specialist, who was also a therapist, we were able to explore various options until the parties were able to come to agreements.
2. Scheduling, Children’s Activities and Sharing the Children’s Expenses: Two professionals with busy schedules had to figure out how to make decisions on which activities they wanted the children to participate in. Plus, they had to decide how much each should contribute toward the costs of agreed activities.
3. Stay at Home Mom, Alimony and Pilot Husband: Mom needed to start a new career and needed some spousal support to help her get started in a career. Dad had an ever-changing work schedule and the parties had to come to an agreement on sharing possession time with the kids.
4. Teenage Kids, Visitation and a House: The parties sold their old house and were able to find two appropriate houses close to each other so the kids could easily go back and forth on their own schedules. The parents ended up letting the kids decide where they wanted to be and how long they would stay.
5. Husband Affair, Alimony and Visitation Schedule: Husband had had an affair and wife knew about it. Wife chose to take the high road and focus on the future, rather than fight over the past. Husband was generous with alimony to help her get started with a career after she had been a stay-at-home Mom. Husband traveled somewhat unpredictably, but they were able to agree to be flexible with the possession schedule for the children.
6. Wife Affair, Alimony and Visitation Schedule: Wife had had an affair and Husband found out about it. After some difficult negotiations, the parties agreed on how to share time with the kids and avoided a custody fight. Wife got alimony and Husband got a flexible possession schedule.
7. Long-Term Marriage, Husband Came Out as Gay and Visitation Schedule: The couple dated in college and got married after graduation. Both had been very active in their conservative church. They quietly worked out the property division and then created a plan to share time with the kids. They also worked out a safe, appropriate plan to explain the situation to the children over time.
8. Long-Term Marriage, Wife Came Out, Professional Service Business Owned by the Parties and Alimony: The couple had a long-term marriage with long-term conflicts. Husband had a good business he had built up. Wife had been a stay-at-home Mom. The children were grown and she was ready to start a new career, but needed alimony to help her until she got financially on her feet.